Love, law and reality

I think it has become much too easy to be labeled in our society. People get labeled all the time for a myriad of reasons. Some of the labels are warranted. Some aren't. The problem is that there are some labels that are so potent that they stay with a person for a lifetime, whether they were warranted or not, and these labels can ruin people's lives.

Little boys, as young as six, are being labeled in this way. I remember reading that it happened to a boy of about that age who tried to kiss a little girl he liked. Not so very many years ago, that was considered natural and normal behavior for little boys who were beginning to discover little girls. But I guess that was a different time. It almost seems like it was an alternate reality now; that time in which I was a child. It was expected that little boys and girls were going to begin to explore the mysteries of the attractions between the sexes.

However, this little boy was expelled. He was tried in a court of law. He was labeled a sex offender. His life is ruined forever. Isn't this an excessive punishment for a little boy just beginning to understand that there is a difference between boys and girls?

Then there are the labels that have been used for many, many years. Let me give you a scenario. A boy and girl meet in school and they date for some years. He is a couple of years older. Their attraction for each other takes a natural course and they have intercourse. Should this boy now be labeled a sex offender because of some arbitrary age limit that has nothing to do with the feeling these two young people have for each other?

Do not misunderstand me! I do not advocate sexual assault or statutory rape. I don't even advocate pre-marital sex! I just think that our society should go a little way towards helping our children avoid actions that will ruin their lives. The pressure to engage in sexual activity is bearing down upon children as it never has before. It is in the movies, TV, music, websites and conversations that surround our kids every day.

Have we really become a One-Mistake culture? It doesn't seem so when we deal with celebrities. How many times have some of the more famous celebrity divas been in court over the past five years? Maybe that's more of the message we are sending our children. Backing over a paprazzo's foot is okay if you have plenty of money, but ordinary little boys are banned from a normal life forever for doing something normal.

Now we have a teen celebrity who admits she is dating a man who is twenty. I am not pre-supposing that anything untoward has happened nor that it will. As far as I know, the young lady in this situation is just that, a young lady and a Christian whose values mean a lot to her. However, attraction is attraction and things do happen no matter how fervently couples are committed to waiting. If anything should happen, the current system says that legal action could be taken against this young man, whether the coupling were consensual or not. Why?

We are so messed up as a society when it comes to appropriate ages for certain activities. At 16, a young girl can decide to emancipate herself from her parents, or have an abortion without parental consent, or drive a car that could kill dozens of others if used irresponsibly but she is not empowered to make a decision that will keep a boy she loves from a life that is ruined forever. The boy, for his part, may drive at 16, must register for the Selective Service at 18, can serve in the Armed Forces at 18 but cannot have a beer when he comes home on leave. And God help him if he comes home from the hell of war and makes love to his sweetheart who is still only 17.

It all seems so very cruel and arbitrary. It's a minefield of laws and contradictions that is maiming and crippling the lives of the very children we say we are trying to protect.

Hannah Montana

I just saw some posts on the group site of our homeschooling organization concerning Miley Cyrus and her TV show Hannah Montana on Disney. It seems people in our group became concerned because MS Cyrus espoused her "Christian faith" during an interview and now it seems that this is cause for greater scrutiny of MS Cyrus and her show. There are those who are asking if she openly promotes Christianity on the show. Duh! It's on Disney and they'd never allow that.

Others are wondering, in print, if Miley is serious about her faith and if there are non-Christian behaviors that may come to light later. I have a different suggestion. Why don't we let Miley, her parents and God worry about all that and just be happy she openly acknowledged her Christianity and pray for her to stay strong? There have been no photos of Haley out clubbing, being arrested for intoxication, driving under the influence or climbing slowly out of cars sans undergarments. Can't we just be happy for all these things that haven't happened?

My prayer is not just that Miley becomes an example for other girls in our homes across the country, but also that her life and witness will become an influence on the others who went before her, some espousing Christian beliefs. Britney claimed at one time to be a Southern Baptist. Honestly! Pastor Mike is right again! Here's the mighty Army of God sitting around polishing its armour and picking fights with one another! Don't forget the Bible says that Satan is the accuser of the brethren! We are to lift one another up, not to whisper to our neighbor how dubious we are about a sister's sincerity!

One other thing we need to do is to quit looking at everything an actor or actress does as if it is supposed to be a sermon. They are playing a role. They usually don't write the scripts and someone as young as Miley is not even going to have much input in the process. Be glad that Haley is who she is, that she has strong Christian parents who aren't out to ride her gravy train and who are keeping her grounded and humble! It would be far better if the church as whole would be a better example and then we could stop relying on celebrities to spread the faith.

By the way, as a father attempting to raise Christian young men in this goofy world, my hat is off to Billy Ray and his wife! It's hard enough to raise children to respect the things of God outside of the glare of Hollyweird. To do so in a constant media spotlight must be some kind of torture and I'm glad you felt called to this challenge.